Reasons Men Cheat

Have you ever wondered about the REASONS MEN CHEAT? According to relationship experts, there are several reasons and SEX is not the only one. Men often have affairs to avoid intimacy, escape an unhappy marriage or because they are in the throws of a mid-life crisis and look at an affair as a way to recover their youth.

When questioned, most men who've had affairs claimed that they felt under appreciated in the home. They claim that there is an emotional disconnect with their wife. Oftentimes, men still love their wives, but they find it difficult to communicate with them and feel there is a growing chasm between them. This has been attributed to the stress of raising a family and all the things that go along with it. Many men believe their wives are too tired for sex and too stressed out from work, kids and financial pressures.

Many women who have experienced infidelity believe that the other women must somehow be more attractive and exciting than they are. But, this isn't usually the case. Most cheating men will admit that the mistress makes them feel "wanted" and "special" while their wives do not. The mistress is ever attentive and does not usually demand much in return.

A report by the Karolinska Institute in Sweden suggested that a man's tendency to infidelity may be in his genes. The study found that men who inherit a genetic variant that affects an important attachment hormone, vasopressin, are more likely than usual to have weaker relationships and marital problems.

This goes along with some biologists belief men cheat by the Darwinian instinct to spread their genetic seed to more mates (while women traditionally stay with one mate to get protection and support). Of course, this isn't always true in today's modern society where more and more women are unfaithful. But, there also may be another reason men are more likely to stray: environment. From a psychological standpoint, men who cheat are often the child of an adulterer. They may be repeating behavior that they've experienced through a parent and the insecurity that arouse from the affair.

Whatever the reason a man chooses to cheat, it is possible in most cases to overcome the infidelity and continue in a steady marriage. If both spouses are willing to work at the relationship, there may be hope. Most marriage counselors agree that it is a difficult road, but with forgiveness and communication, a marriage can be saved.

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